Did you ever think you will find love online?
Kavan: I never really had many thoughts about this. But yes, I had heard many success stories so I was pretty confident and optimistic about the chances of finding a partner online.
Shachi: I honestly did not think that I will find love online as I wasn’t looking for love; I just wanted to meet someone new and go out for a couple of drinks. But boom!
How different is online dating from finding love around you?
Kavan: Online dating is easier as it connects people who already have matched and like each other. It also comes with potentially less baggage compared to going on blind dates or getting your date fixed with someone your mutual friend knows. What’s really unique is that the first time you both saw each other and the first few things you spoke about, are all documented on the app, for you to go back and see in time.
Shachi: I think it is definitely more exciting than meeting someone traditionally because you don’t know anything about this person, you’re literally meeting them for the very first time! So you slowly make new friendships, meet so many new people, get a highly different view on so many things, because chances are they come from a completely different world than yours.
What are some of the things you don’t like when dating online?
Kavan: People lie online and it can be tough to find someone truthful and legit. It naturally becomes a superficial process which prevents you from making connections which you would have if you met physically. It’s also tough to portray your personality through a digital medium.
Shachi: Hahaha! I don’t like the fact that it is not old school, at all. It is not the like kind of love story that we have grown up watching.
Were you putting up your perfect side while dating online or via texts? Or were you your true self?
Kavan: You always start putting up a perfect side until you start getting comfortable. It’s anyways expected of you to woo the person and so you should put your forward your best front.
Shachi: Oh I was definitely putting my perfect side while seeing Kavan! I didn’t want to scare him away with my “Gwalior ki laundi” side! It would have been so much for him to handle suddenly.
Can you tell us what your dating bio was about?
Kavan: Honestly, I do not remember. It was something really simple covering what I do and what I like. It was just the basics.
Shachi: My bio only included information about where I went to college. I don’t think people even cared about bios back then! Thankfully I didn’t have “looking for casual friendship” written on it! And that’s how Kavan and I both were meant to be!
Is connecting over online dating apps as exciting as meeting someone in a physical space?
Kavan: I feel, it is great either way. It is pretty exciting meeting someone who’s already committed to going on a date with you, compared to you taking the night by the ear with someone you meet spontaneously.
Shachi: Both have their own charm. Meeting someone online means, you probably don’t have any mutual connections, like Kavan and I didn’t have even one mutual friend, which is just crazy!
What drew you to your partner online?
Kavan: Her beautiful pictures in a saree plus the fact that she was a forensic expert. Shachi also replied pretty swiftly. Which is a big yes for me. I don’t think we ran out of topics as we both were genuinely curious about each other.
Shachi: When I saw Kavan’s profile pop up, I was immediately drawn to his confident eyes, beautiful sharp nose, and the fact that he had specs! I have always had a thing for boys with specs. I also loved the way he used to lead the conversation. And how he would never keep his ego in between and would double text me.
Did you come across any fake profiles or false identities online? Any tips to tell whether a person is real or fake?
Kavan: Yes, I believe chatting for a few days before meeting gives you an idea about the person. Eventually, you will know and understand how genuine he/she is. Nowadays, lots of profiles also verify themselves which is really helpful. Fake names and photos which seem on the internet are a big no.
Shachi: There are plenty of fake profiles on these dating apps. It is actually easy to identify these profiles. They would usually have very pixelated photos, or the photos would be too good to be true, usually taken from stalk images. Then your gut instinct just tells you whether it’s fake or not.
Was it love at first sight when you both met or did you take your time getting to know your partner?
Kavan: We took our time. Both of us don’t believe in jumping to conclusions. We met several times over 3 months before I formally asked her out.
Shachi: I definitely found him super cute and saw some potential in him when I saw him for the first time. But to fall in love, I think we took our own sweet time. It was a nice slow and steady love. As we kept getting to know each other and seeing how well we function together, we kept falling deeper.
Do you feel taking chances or a ‘leap of faith’ is very important to get to where you are right now?
Kavan: Absolutely. Instead of overthinking the future you can’t control, see if the present moment makes you happy. It’s not a big deal as well. The faster you accept that, the better for you!
Shachi: Absolutely! Nothing good can come out of anything if you keep treading carefully, you have to take that leap of faith. So yes, we both have taken crazy leaps of faith to come to where we are now.